Selenite and Tourmaline – A Powerful Combination to Have near Your Front Door

Many people “grid” their homes with selenite and tourmaline, but I also keep a piece of tourmaline with a selenite wand near the front door of my home. The front door tends to get a lot of visitors and faces some energies that I am not interested in having in my home. (You can read about that here.)

Door Winner 2Both black tourmaline and selenite are wonderful crystals for purifying, cleansing and protecting your surroundings. In the case of putting both near your front door, black tourmaline protects and shields negative energies of unwanted people or negative energies entering your home and selenite purifies and cleanses the space around it. Selenite can also bring a sense of peace and tranquilly.

I have mine placed on a table on my porch near my front door. I know for some, this may sound a little too woowoo, but give it a try and see if your space feels any lighter and different.

 

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[Harlem] Wizards, Symbols and Signs and What about that Shade?

I am sharing this post with you so you can see how much those of us who are sensitive try to balance so much all at once while trying to act like nothing behind the scenes is going on. As well as how Spirit can help you out with even the little things.

Last night our school district put on a fundraiser where the Harlem Wizards performed and did some interactive activities with the audience. A day or two before the event, I wasn’t sure that I wanted to go as large crowds can still be exhausting to the Empath in me no matter how I protect myself. I asked that, “My family only still go to this event if we have a fun time and make a happy memory by going.”

Last night I got selected from the audience to play a game called “Shazam” which was like “Name that Tune” for theme songs to old T.V. shows. They gave a practice song at the beginning of the game.  It was the theme song to the show “Fresh Prince of Bell Air.” I saw the top half of Will Smith’s body dressed in 90s garb with his hat jumping out at me. I said, “DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince of Bell Air.” (I gave more than I needed to, but you get the idea of how the game works.

One of my children were also called up to play along. He was placed in front of a basketball hoop.  For every song that I named correctly, he was going to get to move closer to the basket in the hopes that he’d be close enough to make a basket and the end of the game and win a prize.

So much went through my head in a matter of seconds, which seemed much longer as I was taking care of so much at one time in my head. First, I was trying to listen to the directions that I was being given in front of a gymnasium full of people. At the same time, I threw up a request for some divine assistance. I asked that “I get most of the answers right and that I not make a fool of myself in front of this gym full of people.”

Winning the game was furthest from my mind as I don’t think that even registered at that point. I was more concerned about following directions and not falling flat in front of a gym full of people.  Technically we (those of us who have a strong gift of intuition) aren’t to use our “gifts” to win things that we benefit from (you don’t see a bunch of intuitives hitting it big in Vegas now, do you?), but I wasn’t asking to “win” just act with “dignity and grace” in front of the crowd.

When it registered that my son (who doesn’t like to be the center of attention) was also being called up and that he was going to have to make a basket in the game (and that basketball isn’t exactly his specialty, let alone in front of a gym full of people), I sent up another request that “I can do my best at this game so that he can get as close as possible to the basket.” Again, not for the sake of winning, but to spare him from not making it with all eyes on him. I asked that “he please have assistance in making the shot when it comes time.”

Playing “Shazam” with “Swoop” 1.18.2020

During all of this, the MC was doing his spiel and giving me and the crowd directions. (I was to relay on the audience to help me with answers if I needed assistance.) I was trying to keep one eye on my son but yet be alert enough to know what I was supposed to be doing, all while sending up a few requests to the other side…and then I felt it…the shade being thrown at me by two female individuals who were to the right of me in the audience, toward the center, in the bleachers. While being told where to stand by the MC, I asked that I not absorb the negativity that they were sending in my direction and that it be reflected back to them. (Which really, wasn’t the right thing for me to do. The protecting of my energy was, but what I should have done was ask that the negative energy that they were sending my way be turned into positive energy to help somebody who needed it.) Under the circumstances I didn’t think that far or rationally.

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Then the songs started and the game began and images started popping into my head. (The gift of Clairvoyance.) The first song was from the show “Golden Girls.” I got an image of the kitchen table and wall paper that was in the show. (Got that one right.) Next was the theme song from the show “Friends.” I first saw some letters that I couldn’t make out, and then some dots between the letters jumping out at me and then I saw the word “Friends.” (Got that one.) Then the theme song from “Full House” played. I saw a gray town house and then I saw hilly streets and a trolley, like you would find in San Francisco. (I got that one correct as well.) Next, the theme song from the show “Cheers” played. When the song started, I felt like I was sitting at a bar and looking at the door. First a man walked in who I didn’t recognize and then as I was blurting out the answer, I saw the character “Norm” pop up.

The next song, I had issues with but looking back, images were given to me. I saw a bring wall, a sidewalk and it was dark like it was at night. I also saw some kind of a moving line or conveyor belt. I knew the images that I was seeing, but I couldn’t interpret them. I tried asking the audience for the answer but due to the acoustics in the gym, I was unable to make out what they were saying. Time ran out and I didn’t get that answer correct. The answer was “Lavern & Shirley.” As I said, the images were right, I just didn’t know how to use them. In the beginning of the show, Lavern and Shirley are shown walking down the street arm in arm, at night, alongside a row of brownstones singing “schlemiel, schlimazel, hasenpfeffer incorporated!” They also worked at a beer factory in the show which was also shown at the beginning of each show.

The final song was from the show “Different Strokes.” I got an image of my children watching TV in my family room. In the image the TV was on and I saw the back of my kids heads. My kids recently were into watching Different Strokes and the Facts of Life. (One played right after the other.) I first answered “Facts of Life” based on the image I got but then quickly changed my answer to “Different Strokes.”

I got all but one answer correct. My son was able to take multiple steps closer to the basket to attempt his shot. I am happy to say that he made it!!!

It wasn’t until later in the evening when I got home that it hit me. I had assistance from the other side. (I still get “wowed” when this happens.) What I asked for help with was granted. I asked to not look like a complete fool and for my son to make the basket. Both were a success. More importantly we had a great time and made a great family memory.

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Yesterday I was Keeping my Words in, and I Started to get a Sore Throat

Along my awakening journey I have learned that most dis-ease, body ailments, aches and pains that we experience in our bodies here in the physical world are related to our frame of mind and emotional state. (Louise Hay’s Book, “Heal Your Body” is a great resource for this topic.) I had an experience yesterday that is a perfect example of this that I would like to share with you.

As a reminder, the stories and topics that I share are as I have observed them, as I have lived them, and as they have happened to me, along my journey. They are not intended to hurt anybody and they are told as I have experienced them. I have also done my best to protect the identity of the subjects in my writings. If you find yourself reading something and suddenly question: “Is that about me?” If that is the case it probably is to some degree because there’s absolutely some kind of lesson in there for you.

This post is a bit long, but I think that the back story is important to share to bring light as to why my throat started to hurt.

As it relates to this story, parents all have different parenting styles and we all handle issues with our children as we see fit. In our house when my children have an issue with another child (which doesn’t happen very often) we start by addressing the issue in only the four walls of our house and try to talk through and rectify the issues that way. (I don’t bother my children’s school with the issue and I don’t reach out to other parents immediately.)  If things are more serious or the same thing(s) keeps happening between one of my children and another child, (and it needs to be something big or my child’s reaction shows me concern) I will bring it to the attention of the other child’s parent. I’ve only had to bring up issues with other parents a few times so far in my children’s adolescent lives. Honestly I can count on one hand the number of times and I think I am up to maybe 4. In the times I have had to reach out to another parent I have presented the issues as a “heads up” to the parent to let them know that an incident took place. I don’t ask for anything in return. No even an apology to my kid. Just simply a heads up. I also ask that parent to let ME know what role my child played in the incident and to please let me know if I need to address anything with my child.

The times that I have been contacted by another parent about concerns or incidents that my children have been involved in, I thank the parent for reaching out to me and let them know that I will be addressing the issue with my child. I then sit down with my child and ask them for their side of the story.

As with anything, there are always three sides to any story…What this one thinks happens. What the other person think happens. And then what REALLY happened…. We all have our different perception or interpretation as to what is going on around us. In some cases one person might be in the wrong in their actions. In other cases both parties might be right or wrong in their actions.

If a parent contacts me about my child, I sit down with my child and get their side of the story and decide whether they were correct or not correct in their behavior. Then I circle back with the parent who contacted me and at times it has been appropriate that my child apologize to the other child. In our home we tend to “make things right” with the situation or other person and try to move on, even if we (or my children) feel that they didn’t wrong anyone. It is easier to just be a good human and to apologize and to move on.

My child (as well as our family) has tolerated the behavior of another child in our neighborhood for nearly the last six years. The list of things that this child has done that we have tolerated is a mile long and ranges from things like damaging our property, using inappropriate words and comments for his age, physically striking my children with other toys, and the best was the time that our family came home one day to find that he let himself into our house (and our dog running amok around the neighborhood). Though many of these things have continued to happen, the ones that I listed above all happened before this kid was 8 years old. (He is now 11.)

Over the years, after such incidents, I  have kept my mouth shut and I didn’t follow up with the parents of the child because my gut feeling told me if I bring anything up, that it would cause bad blood with this family. My thought was by keeping my mouth shut and tolerating this kid that I was being a cordial and considerate neighbor. (As many of you read this, I know you are thinking, WTF? Why didn’t you say anything?)

Fast forward to less than two months ago, there were multiple verbal instances between my child and this kid and on the final time other parents were witness to it. Since it was the third or fourth time that it happened and I could see that it was wearing on my child, I chose to reach out to the mother of the child via text.

The mother responded quickly and thanked me for letting her know. She did allude to the fact that her child’s behavior had to do with a text message that a third party kid sent her kid, but she said she would address it.

OK, fine. My thought was “let’s move on.” I’ve brought it to her attention. She’ll handle it her way. We are done here. (I was actually surprised at the quick response as other parents have warned me that they never get anywhere with her when they have raised issues in the past.) I felt satisfied in thinking that this was a done issue.

Then just this week, my child (who is generally on the more timid side) comes home fuming, in tears and is looking to punch walls and to kick things. He tells me that “he can’t take it anymore” and describes what this kid, the ringleader, said on the bus to my child and got others to join in as well. My child said that the ringleader and another child were poking at him the most, though others were also chiming in. My child does lack courage when standing up to others and it is something that we are still working on, but I could tell that this incident shook him. He proceeded to tell me that this has previously gone on (since the last incident that I let the mother know about) and I could tell that he had had it and that the ring-leading child’s repeated actions were affecting my child’s mental and emotional state.

I waited a few hours (I always feel that a cool down period is important) and I reached out to the children’s parents who seemed to cause my child the most distress with one being the ringleader’s mother and then to another mother who I know, to make them aware of the incident. I didn’t ask for anything in return, I just wanted them to be aware.

One mother responded back to me. She expressed concern and said that she’d be addressing it with her child. She also offered to have her child come over and to apologize. The other… the ringleader’s mother, wrote back a curt message that evening.  (Let’s add here that as an Intuitive Emapth, I can feel the tone of words that are written, not just spoken as well as have the ability to sense the feelings and energy of other people.)

The next morning while heading to the bus stop, I see the ringleaders’ mother running with her dog. She sees me, looks the other way and takes off.  Later that morning, I get a lengthy text from her. Basically she thinks what her kid said/did to my kid in the previous incident a few months ago as well as the other day isn’t that big of a deal. Her older kid and his friends have done it before and she doesn’t think it is that bad. Boys will be boys. Kids will be kids. (She based this on the fact that she has experience with older kids.) She then spun things and went on to say that I don’t care for her son (well, YOU the reader of this post saw my above list) and made him out to be the victim. She then went on to say that she knows her child and she will always support him. The last line of her message was “Have a nice day!” (In her defense we are I Mercury Retrograde.)

Oh! The things I could respond back with! I was seething. The things I have witnessed her child do… The complaints I have from at least six other families who live nearby who have shared their experiences with this family and this specific kid… The things that other parents at school have mentioned to me about her son…..

I could feel my throat starting to get scratchy as my thoughts were becoming inflamed. I thought, “Great! I’m getting sick!”

I battled with myself as to what my next move should be. Should I respond back?

I thought, why bother? It is going to fall on deaf ears, no responsibility is going to be taken, some people have to be right, they don’t have compassion and they are self-absorbed. I felt that if I go back to her with anything, she’ll just keep throwing it back this way and that her anger and negativity are just going to escalate. Furthermore, if someone has traits they don’t like about themselves, they are reminded of them when an Empath comes along as we reflect their “shadow side” back to them. (I AM an Empath!) Empaths tend to highlight and outline the traits of another person by not playing into lies, behaviors and narcissism.

I also struggled with the fact that my energy isn’t worth sacrificing and really needs to be protected. (People should protect their own energy, but for an Empath, it is even more crucial to do so.) Her lower vibration is just going to bring mine down to her level and the more I interact with her, the more this is going to happen.

And lastly, I feel that somewhere in this mess there is a bit of a “test” for me along my journey. Perhaps a test in keeping my mouth shut regarding things that I know. (See my post about “Spirit Gossip” and getting intuitive information on people who irritate my spirit.)

By dinner time my throat was getting worse and I started to take proactive measures with essential oils and elderberry syrup in the event that I was getting sick.

After dinner was done and the kids were off doing their own thing, I went into my office and I decided to “document” some of the recent instances that my child has had with the ringleader. (A few mothers who I know suggested that I do this in case these incidents keep happening with this kid.) As I was documenting, I also got the other information I had on this child out of my system. A bit of a purge shall we say?

I realized that after I was done documenting and purging, that my throat was back to normal. (Perhaps a reflective crystals ball in my window as well as my selenite wand did a little assisting as well.) Out of curiosity, I did get out my “Heal Your Body” book by Louise Hay to see what the cause or thought pattern of a sore throat or even throat meant.

Per the book, problems with the throat have to do with “The Inability to speak up for one’s self” and “Swallowed anger.” And a sore throat is associated with “Holding in angry words.” Hmmm, sounds like that hit yesterday on the head!

Today, I woke up with no issues in my throat. I also have a feeling of contentment. I know that I did the right thing by not engaging any longer with the mother. I also know that there is more to come and that I should just stay in my lane. The Universe will be taking care of the rest. #SpiritGossip #SoulContracts

Here is one Example How I use Mirrors to Deflect Negative “Stuff” or Bad Vibes Away from Me and My Home

Here is one Example How I use Mirrors to Deflect Negative “Stuff” or Bad Vibes Away from Me and My Home

I have three mirrored balls on display in the front of my house. To most, they probably just look like lawn ornaments, but they really have a purpose for being there.

As a reminder, the stories and topics that I share are as I have observed them, as I have lived them, and as they have happened to me, along my journey. They are not intended to hurt anybody and they are told as I have experienced them. Without my experiences, I wouldn’t be where I am now. If you find yourself reading something and suddenly question: “Is that about me?” If that is the case it probably is to some degree because there’s absolutely some kind of lesson in there for you.

Bad vibes such as negativity, bitterness and envy are everywhere and can’t always be avoided. As my gifts and sensitivities have increased, I have noticed that negative energy affects me more and more. As I have learned some tips and tricks that have helped me along the way and I have shared them with others in this blog, as well as in different social media groups. Today I am going share with you how mirrors have helped my personal space.

A few years ago, I went to have a reading done from my regular, go-to gal, and she picked up on some negative energy that was coming into my home (also known as a “Psychic Attack”) from a neighbor who lived across the street from me.  A psychic attack is when someone intentionally or unintentionally directs harmful energy (either mentally or physically) at someone else. This usually happens while they are in a state of anger, jealousy, envy or hate.

Symptoms of a psychic attack can include: Aches, pains and/or migraines; Feeling angry at others or yourself for no logical reason; Feeling draineExamples of a Psychic Attack-2d; Lack of memory and concentration; Nightmares; Panic Attacks; Pressure in your chest or in your third eye chakra; and/or sensing negative energy around you

I went through the neighbors who lived across from my house and described them. Through my descriptions and the information that the intuitive was receiving, we figured out which neighbor it was. (I wasn’t surprised.)  The Intuitive suggested that I put a mirror on the wall that faces her house, across from the window, to reflect the energy that was coming in. Another alternative that she suggested was to place a compact mirror in the window and have it face outward.

I took this advice seriously. At the time of this reading, I was at the beginning of my Awakening Journey and my body and health never felt right. I figured it can’t hurt and what do I have to lose? I tired and I tried to decorate the room that faced this particular neighbor time and again with a mirror on the wall, but it never seemed to feel quite right to me. I’d re-arrange the furniture in the room time and time again, trying to get the room to accommodate a mirror.  I also explored the idea of putting a mirror on a stand and on a table that would reflect the negative energy back out. When that wasn’t coming together, I looked into getting some sort of mirror that I could hang in the window, but I figured that would look odd when looking at the house from the outside so I gave up on that idea.

In the meantime, through other energy work sessions that I had done, this particular neighbor kept coming up. In one secession it was explained to me that the back pain that I was experiencing had to do with the “back-stabbing” that this particular neighbor was doing to me. Another time the topic of psychic attack came up and this particular neighbor came up as the person who was behind it.

fountain 2Then one day, about a year after being advised to reflect the negative energy out of my home, it hit me! Why couldn’t I put something outside that would reflect the energy? Realistically it probably isn’t a bad idea to put such mirrors reflecting all around the perimeter of my house, they do get pricey, so I figured that I would start with the part that faced the neighbor.  I found some mirrored spheres and put them in a fountain that I used as a flower bed. It is raised up in front of my window of the particular room that was allowing this energy into my home. Ever since then, the energy of this particular neighbor has no longer bothered me and the feeling in the rooms that face her house are much lighter.

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How to put your Tarot Deck in Order

A few months ago, I wrote about “How to Cleanse or Clear Your Tarot Cards” and in the post I mentioned that after I cleanse mine, I put them back in order. It can be hard to know what order to put the deck back in as there are 72 cards in the deck.

Tarot decks contain two groups of cards: Twenty-two trump cards (Major Arcana) and fifty-six suit cards (Minor Arcana). The Major Arcana cards are the 0-21 numbered cards and the Minor Arcana contain four suites of cards (Wands, Cups, Swords and Pentacles – in that order) with 14 cards in each suite.

Here is order that you will want to put your deck together in. Starting with the “0” or “The Fool” card:

MAJOR ARCANA

The Fool

The Magician

The High Priestess

The Empress

The Emperor

The Hierophant

The Lovers

The Chariot

Strength

The Hermit

Wheel of Fortune

Justice

The Hanged Man

Death

Temperance

The Devil

The Tower

The Star

The Moon

The Sun

Judgment

The World

 

MINOR ARCANA

Suite of Wands

Ace of Wands

Two of Wands

Three of Wands

Four of Wands

Five of Wands

Six of Wands

Seven of Wands

Eight of Wands

Nine of Wands

Ten of Wands

Page of Wands

Knight of Wands

Queen of Wands

King of Wands

 

Suite of Cups

Ace of Cups

Two of Cups

Three of Cups

Four of Cups

Five of Cups

Six of Cups

Seven of Cups

Eight of Cups

Nine of Cups

Ten of Cups

Page of Cups

Knight of Cups

Queen of Cups

King of Cups

 

Suite of Swords

Ace of Swords

Two of Swords

Three of Swords

Four of Swords

Five of Swords

Six of Swords

Seven of Swords

Eight of Swords

Nine of Swords

Ten of Swords

Page of Swords

Knight of Swords

Queen of Swords

King of Swords

 

Suite of Pentacles

Ace of Pentacles

Two of Pentacles

Three of Pentacles

Four of Pentacles

Five of Pentacles

Six of Pentacles

Seven of Pentacles

Eight of Pentacles

Nine of Pentacles

Ten of Pentacles

Page of Pentacles

Knight of Pentacles

Queen of Pentacles

King of Pentacles

 

I hope that you find this list to be helpful. Feel free to print out this blog post or cut and paste the listing for your own use.

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How to Cleanse or Clear Your Tarot Cards

A few days ago an unexpected package showed up at my door. The holidays were over and I didn’t remember ordering anything so I wasn’t expecting anything. The box was from one of my best friends who I have known since the 4th grade.

I opened the box to find a set of Tarot Cards and a note. I called my friend immediately to thank her. She said that she saw them and thought of me.

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Though I get most of my information intuitively, I do use cards to validate the information that I get from time to time. I also use them to get information flowing, sort of like the story prompts that teachers would give in grade school to get you to start writing. A person DOES NOT need to have finely tuned Intuitive gifts in order to use tarot cards. Anybody can use them. You will want to cleanse your deck in order to get the most correct information possible.

Keep it Clean!

Everything is energy and energy gets transferred to all matter, including cards. It is important to cleanse your cards when you first get them. They have potentially been touched by the people who made them, and handled those who have transported them. They have also come in contact with the energy of anybody who touched them in a store including employees and customers. You will also want to cleanse your cards regularly as well as anytime they start to feel “stale” or the information is not coming through as clear for you or you feel like you are getting your “wires crossed’ with information.  You will also want to “clean them” if you haven’t used them in a while or if you have had a reading that felt draining.

Ways to Cleanse your Deck

Fire and Smoke: I personally like to use fire or smoke to cleanse my deck. I either light a candle or a stick of incense and hold each card one at a time over the flame or incense smoke and ask that the card(s) be cleansed. (You can also use sage.)  I then put the deck back in order, and store it in a velvet bag that I keep in a decorative box.

Fresh Air and Sunshine: Though you don’t want to try this on a windy day, you can set your cards outside and let the fresh air cleanse them and then allow the sun to recharge them.

Bury in Sea Salt: You can cleanse your cards using sea salt. (I use the same method for cleansing jewelry sometimes.) Take your deck and wrap it tight in kitchen plastic wrap or a plastic bag. You can then place your cards in an airtight container for a few days emerged in sea salt. The sea salt will draw out negative energy the same way that salt draws out moisture in food. (You can also bury your cards in sand, a sand and salt combination, as well as in herbs.) When you are ready to take out your cards, you will want to dispose of the sea salt and clean the container.

Water: Though you will want to be careful to not saturate your cards, you can use a spray bottle of water (I like to add a few drops of Palo Santo oil when I use water to cleanse items or spaces) and mist your cards. Purified water is preferred.

Crystals: You can use Crystals to cleanse your tarot deck. I prefer to place a selenite wand on top of my deck or to place my deck on a selenite plate.

Moon Bath: During a full moon, you can place your deck outside (weather permitting) or in your window sill in the light of the moon. (Many people also use this method for cleansing and recharging their crystals.)

Reiki: You can cleanse and recharge your deck by using Reiki. First, draw the power symbol Cho Ku Rei on both the palms. Spread out the cards and draw CKR on cards. CKR is a symbol that is intended to increase or expand energy. Rub your palms for 10 seconds and then pile your cards making sure you touch each and every card. Hold the pile between your palms and give Reiki with the intention to remove stagnant and negative energy. Finally, use the Sei He Ki symbol to reconnect with your cards. SHK is the symbol that brings together the “brain and the body

Pendulum: You can use a pendulum to cleanse your tarot deck. First, fan out your tarot deck facing upright. Next, swing your pendulum side to side across the entire tarot deck. While doing so, envision your pendulum clearing the negative energy and replacing it with golden positive energy. You can also use your pendulum to ask the deck if it has been cleansed all of the way using ANY of the methods that I have listed. (My pendulum is programed to go clockwise for “yes” and counter clockwise for “no” but yours may be different.)

There is no one-size-fits-all method for cleaning and clearing tarot cards. Use whatever works best for you. Click Here if you need help putting your deck back in the correct order. Feel free to drop me a line or put in the comments section what method you use or what method works best for you.

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Black Tourmaline is an Excellent Stone for Repelling and Blocking Negative Energy!

As an Empath, I absorb other people’s energy, including their negative energy. I have discovered that black tourmaline is an excellent crystal that aides in repelling and blocking both negative energies, as well as psychic attacks.  (It is also an excellent grounding stone!) Negative energies don’t need to be that of Spirit form, which is where I think that many people’s minds go when they hear, “negative energies.” Negative energy can come from people or places in the physical world that have a low energetic vibration. A low vibration can be associated with qualities such as hatred, fear, constant complaining, greed, drama, and even depression. This can be challenging for Empaths; however, energy is contagious and you don’t need to be an Empath necessarily to be affected by someone else’s energy.

I usually carry black tourmaline in my purse or my pocket. I also have a few pieces of jewelry that contain black tourmaline. Another way that I use black tourmaline is by burying it in my flower pots and in my flower beds around my home. It helps to repel and absorb any negative energy of others coming into my house or my yard.

blackIt is important that you cleanse your black tourmaline. You can do so by running your crystal(s) under cold water for a few minutes. When I do this, I ask, or set the intention that “all negative energy be washed down the drain.” I also rest my black tourmaline stones on a selenite plate, as that is another method of clearing the negative energy that the stones my have picked up.

If you haven’t given black tourmaline a try, I urge you to do so. Or at the very least, research it! This stone is readily available at retail places where stones and crystals are sold. If you don’t physically live by a shop, seek one out online.

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An Empath Can Never Have Too Much Space Between Them and Negative or Toxic People

As an Empath, it can be challenging to manage your energy, especially when you are in settings where there is a negative or toxic person or group of people. I have found that the simply moving away from the source of negativity does wonders for me.

What is a negative or toxic person you ask? Well, they tend to be people who have issues with maintaining relationships. They judge others, dwell on the past, have anger issues, they can never be wrong and tend to be brown-nosers.

These types of people like to be the center of attention even if it is negative attention. They will do anything to get you to pay attention to them and see their point of view even if they tell you lies or fib to you.  They also tend to leverage themselves into a position where people have but no choice but to pay attention to them.

Negative or toxic people tend to either stir up drama or feed off of others, and at times will even help it to manifest. They manipulate, they like to control, and they like to withhold information that can be a benefit to others. They also like to blame others for their circumstances.

Do you know anyone who fits this bill?? A relative? A co-worker? A hair-dresser? A class-mate? A stage mother? A sports parent? A drinking buddy?

It is nearly impossible to avoid negative or toxic people all together, especially at social gatherings, in the workplace, at school or church functions, or at your child’s extracurricular activities. As an empath, physical closeness can increase the absorption of a negative person’s feelings or energy. With that said, I have found it extremely effective to distance myself physically from such people. And by distancing I mean at least twenty feet or more. In cramped quarters, that isn’t always possible but in the least, it is helpful to avoid as much contact as possible with negative or toxic people. Give yourself permission to change where you are sitting, stand on a different side of the room, or take frequent breaks from the crowd if need be. Sure, it can come off looking anti-social or snobby, but I have let go of being worried about what other people think as my own energy, or how I feel physically, outweighs other people’s opinions. And really, if it is a negative person that one is trying to avoid, that person isn’t giving you a second (positive) thought anyway. Right?

Homemade Chemical Free Weed Killer

So I saw this 100% Chemical Free Weed Killer recipe posted online and tried it for myself and I can say, yes, it works!! It is cheaper (and better for you, your family, your pets and the environment) than brands like Roundup, and it uses essential oil for one of its main ingredients.

*** Let me state for the record that I don’t sell or represent any particular essential oil company. In fact, I even question some multi-level marketing (MLM) essential oil companies and their practices. I personally dabble in all brands and I am not married to any one of them in particular. ***

Our back patio is covered in weeds this time a year. Mostly due to our bird feeders that our kept near the back of the house. Our dog and kids are always on the patio so using something full of chemicals is out of the question. And due to all of my sensitivities, I don’t want to come close to anything like chemical weed killer. I have attempted to pull the weeds by hand, or dig them out with a knife, but there are just too many and I kept losing the battle.

During my Awakening, my sensitives increased 10-fold. When exploring homeopathic answers, I took a test and found out that I had a lot of “Round Up” weed killer in my system and such chemicals are linked to chronic pain. This led me to explore some natural options for killing weeds.

Here is the recipe that I used and links to where I found the ingredients. (I am not being endorsed for any of these suggestions, simply passing along what worked for me.)

Recipe:
1 Gallon Distilled White Vinegar
– 6 Tablespoons Pure Castile Soap
– 30 drops Thieves Essential Oil, inexpensively purchased at EdensGarden.com (Eden’s Garden oils an also be purchased on Amazon.com.) Their version of “Thieves” is called: “Fighting Five” http://www.edensgarden.com/products/fighting-five
– 1 Gallon Sprayer – purchased for $5 at Walmart http://www.walmart.com/ip/RL-Flo-Master-1-Gallon-Sprayer/13376324

weed killer watermarkNow I will say that I have sprayed my patio both when the sun was beating on the weeds and another time when the patio was shady and I will say, that this method worked much better when the sun was beating on the weeds. Also, you don’t want to spray before it rains as the rain will wash the mixture off and you’ll have to start again.

After sharing this recipe with a few people, I had a friend of mine who works at a garden nursery tell me that really ANY essential oil will work for this weed killing concoction as the vinegar is acidic and the oil helps it to stick to the plants.

Give it a try and tell me what you think.