Yesterday I was Keeping my Words in, and I Started to get a Sore Throat

Along my awakening journey I have learned that most dis-ease, body ailments, aches and pains that we experience in our bodies here in the physical world are related to our frame of mind and emotional state. (Louise Hay’s Book, “Heal Your Body” is a great resource for this topic.) I had an experience yesterday that is a perfect example of this that I would like to share with you.

As a reminder, the stories and topics that I share are as I have observed them, as I have lived them, and as they have happened to me, along my journey. They are not intended to hurt anybody and they are told as I have experienced them. I have also done my best to protect the identity of the subjects in my writings. If you find yourself reading something and suddenly question: “Is that about me?” If that is the case it probably is to some degree because there’s absolutely some kind of lesson in there for you.

This post is a bit long, but I think that the back story is important to share to bring light as to why my throat started to hurt.

As it relates to this story, parents all have different parenting styles and we all handle issues with our children as we see fit. In our house when my children have an issue with another child (which doesn’t happen very often) we start by addressing the issue in only the four walls of our house and try to talk through and rectify the issues that way. (I don’t bother my children’s school with the issue and I don’t reach out to other parents immediately.)  If things are more serious or the same thing(s) keeps happening between one of my children and another child, (and it needs to be something big or my child’s reaction shows me concern) I will bring it to the attention of the other child’s parent. I’ve only had to bring up issues with other parents a few times so far in my children’s adolescent lives. Honestly I can count on one hand the number of times and I think I am up to maybe 4. In the times I have had to reach out to another parent I have presented the issues as a “heads up” to the parent to let them know that an incident took place. I don’t ask for anything in return. No even an apology to my kid. Just simply a heads up. I also ask that parent to let ME know what role my child played in the incident and to please let me know if I need to address anything with my child.

The times that I have been contacted by another parent about concerns or incidents that my children have been involved in, I thank the parent for reaching out to me and let them know that I will be addressing the issue with my child. I then sit down with my child and ask them for their side of the story.

As with anything, there are always three sides to any story…What this one thinks happens. What the other person think happens. And then what REALLY happened…. We all have our different perception or interpretation as to what is going on around us. In some cases one person might be in the wrong in their actions. In other cases both parties might be right or wrong in their actions.

If a parent contacts me about my child, I sit down with my child and get their side of the story and decide whether they were correct or not correct in their behavior. Then I circle back with the parent who contacted me and at times it has been appropriate that my child apologize to the other child. In our home we tend to “make things right” with the situation or other person and try to move on, even if we (or my children) feel that they didn’t wrong anyone. It is easier to just be a good human and to apologize and to move on.

My child (as well as our family) has tolerated the behavior of another child in our neighborhood for nearly the last six years. The list of things that this child has done that we have tolerated is a mile long and ranges from things like damaging our property, using inappropriate words and comments for his age, physically striking my children with other toys, and the best was the time that our family came home one day to find that he let himself into our house (and our dog running amok around the neighborhood). Though many of these things have continued to happen, the ones that I listed above all happened before this kid was 8 years old. (He is now 11.)

Over the years, after such incidents, I  have kept my mouth shut and I didn’t follow up with the parents of the child because my gut feeling told me if I bring anything up, that it would cause bad blood with this family. My thought was by keeping my mouth shut and tolerating this kid that I was being a cordial and considerate neighbor. (As many of you read this, I know you are thinking, WTF? Why didn’t you say anything?)

Fast forward to less than two months ago, there were multiple verbal instances between my child and this kid and on the final time other parents were witness to it. Since it was the third or fourth time that it happened and I could see that it was wearing on my child, I chose to reach out to the mother of the child via text.

The mother responded quickly and thanked me for letting her know. She did allude to the fact that her child’s behavior had to do with a text message that a third party kid sent her kid, but she said she would address it.

OK, fine. My thought was “let’s move on.” I’ve brought it to her attention. She’ll handle it her way. We are done here. (I was actually surprised at the quick response as other parents have warned me that they never get anywhere with her when they have raised issues in the past.) I felt satisfied in thinking that this was a done issue.

Then just this week, my child (who is generally on the more timid side) comes home fuming, in tears and is looking to punch walls and to kick things. He tells me that “he can’t take it anymore” and describes what this kid, the ringleader, said on the bus to my child and got others to join in as well. My child said that the ringleader and another child were poking at him the most, though others were also chiming in. My child does lack courage when standing up to others and it is something that we are still working on, but I could tell that this incident shook him. He proceeded to tell me that this has previously gone on (since the last incident that I let the mother know about) and I could tell that he had had it and that the ring-leading child’s repeated actions were affecting my child’s mental and emotional state.

I waited a few hours (I always feel that a cool down period is important) and I reached out to the children’s parents who seemed to cause my child the most distress with one being the ringleader’s mother and then to another mother who I know, to make them aware of the incident. I didn’t ask for anything in return, I just wanted them to be aware.

One mother responded back to me. She expressed concern and said that she’d be addressing it with her child. She also offered to have her child come over and to apologize. The other… the ringleader’s mother, wrote back a curt message that evening.  (Let’s add here that as an Intuitive Emapth, I can feel the tone of words that are written, not just spoken as well as have the ability to sense the feelings and energy of other people.)

The next morning while heading to the bus stop, I see the ringleaders’ mother running with her dog. She sees me, looks the other way and takes off.  Later that morning, I get a lengthy text from her. Basically she thinks what her kid said/did to my kid in the previous incident a few months ago as well as the other day isn’t that big of a deal. Her older kid and his friends have done it before and she doesn’t think it is that bad. Boys will be boys. Kids will be kids. (She based this on the fact that she has experience with older kids.) She then spun things and went on to say that I don’t care for her son (well, YOU the reader of this post saw my above list) and made him out to be the victim. She then went on to say that she knows her child and she will always support him. The last line of her message was “Have a nice day!” (In her defense we are I Mercury Retrograde.)

Oh! The things I could respond back with! I was seething. The things I have witnessed her child do… The complaints I have from at least six other families who live nearby who have shared their experiences with this family and this specific kid… The things that other parents at school have mentioned to me about her son…..

I could feel my throat starting to get scratchy as my thoughts were becoming inflamed. I thought, “Great! I’m getting sick!”

I battled with myself as to what my next move should be. Should I respond back?

I thought, why bother? It is going to fall on deaf ears, no responsibility is going to be taken, some people have to be right, they don’t have compassion and they are self-absorbed. I felt that if I go back to her with anything, she’ll just keep throwing it back this way and that her anger and negativity are just going to escalate. Furthermore, if someone has traits they don’t like about themselves, they are reminded of them when an Empath comes along as we reflect their “shadow side” back to them. (I AM an Empath!) Empaths tend to highlight and outline the traits of another person by not playing into lies, behaviors and narcissism.

I also struggled with the fact that my energy isn’t worth sacrificing and really needs to be protected. (People should protect their own energy, but for an Empath, it is even more crucial to do so.) Her lower vibration is just going to bring mine down to her level and the more I interact with her, the more this is going to happen.

And lastly, I feel that somewhere in this mess there is a bit of a “test” for me along my journey. Perhaps a test in keeping my mouth shut regarding things that I know. (See my post about “Spirit Gossip” and getting intuitive information on people who irritate my spirit.)

By dinner time my throat was getting worse and I started to take proactive measures with essential oils and elderberry syrup in the event that I was getting sick.

After dinner was done and the kids were off doing their own thing, I went into my office and I decided to “document” some of the recent instances that my child has had with the ringleader. (A few mothers who I know suggested that I do this in case these incidents keep happening with this kid.) As I was documenting, I also got the other information I had on this child out of my system. A bit of a purge shall we say?

I realized that after I was done documenting and purging, that my throat was back to normal. (Perhaps a reflective crystals ball in my window as well as my selenite wand did a little assisting as well.) Out of curiosity, I did get out my “Heal Your Body” book by Louise Hay to see what the cause or thought pattern of a sore throat or even throat meant.

Per the book, problems with the throat have to do with “The Inability to speak up for one’s self” and “Swallowed anger.” And a sore throat is associated with “Holding in angry words.” Hmmm, sounds like that hit yesterday on the head!

Today, I woke up with no issues in my throat. I also have a feeling of contentment. I know that I did the right thing by not engaging any longer with the mother. I also know that there is more to come and that I should just stay in my lane. The Universe will be taking care of the rest. #SpiritGossip #SoulContracts

No Favor is too Small, When Asking Spirit for Assistance

So this may sound a bit nuts to some, but I wanted to share something that took place yesterday. (I’m sure there is a lot of stuff that sounds crazy in my blog if you comb through it.) Yesterday was Halloween and here in the Midwest where I live, we experienced unseasonable snow, sleet and 30-degree temps on a day when kids like to go door to door for trick-or-treating.

outside1This year, I kicked up my outdoor Halloween décor a notch and I included a lot of outdoor lights. Something that I haven’t really done in the past for Halloween. I have had issues in the recent week with all of the rain we’ve had (we got 4 inches one evening alone) as well as the snow, tripping the GFCI outlet outside and my lights not staying on. I felt a little bummed that I decorated for Halloween and it was a possibility that the lights might not stay on for trick-or-treaters. (I know, sounds selfish.)

On Halloween morning, while sipping on my first cup of coffee, I went outside to inspect my lights. After kicking snow off of some of the plugs (I learned online that I should have wrapped these, oops!) and resetting my GFCI outlet a number of times, I got everything to light up. It was before 7AM but I didn’t care. I thought if they stay on all day and make it through the trick-or-treaters, that I’d be satisfied. I sent up a little request to the Universe to “Please keep my lights on.”

Well, within an hour, they were out again. Ugh! I went outside again and messed with things and eventually got them on again. Once they were on,  I re-phrased my request to “Please keep my lights on until after trick-or-treating is over this evening.” (Mind you with all of the snow, I wasn’t sure how short lived trick or treating might be on our block.)

To my surprise, we DID have a great turnout for trick-or-treating despite the weather. Our trick-or-treating hours ran from 4pm until 7pm. Half-way through the evening while handing out candy, I realized that my lights did not so much as flicker. (Whew!)

Once the trick-or-treating subsided, I went outside in the cold to take a few photos of my décor. Once I was done, I walked up my front walk toward the front door and bam! Just like that, I heard the GFCI plug switch off and everything went dark as I stood on my front walk. My first reaction was to go to the outlet and reset it. But then I paused. And honestly I had a calmness come over me when I realized…. I asked Spirit to keep my lights on until trick-or-treating was over for the evening and it just ended. And the lights did stay on until the end. As I smiled to myself, I felt smiles around me. Even though it was a trivial request in the grand scheme of things, Spirit was there to assist me and kept its end of the bargain.

Are You and Your Social Media Account(s) Putting Positive or Negative Energy out into the Universe?

How many of us take a step back and observe what we put out onto our social media accounts? How many of us stop and think before we hit the “like” or “share” button, or offer our two cents on in the comments section of someone else’s status?

I recently had someone suggest to me that social media isn’t real, therefore it doesn’t matter what we post. (It’s not real? Then why are we are all spending a crap-load of time on it these days?)

b0cc205a7f3f6b4d94493ec7fd43ba1aSomeone else suggested to me that social media doesn’t necessarily reflect who you really are. (I’m calling bullsh*t on this, too.) If it isn’t really reflective of who you really are, perhaps your evil twin is posting things on your behalf?

Another person I know tells me that she likes to post funny things, mean things and political things but that it DOESN’T MEAN ANYTHING just because she posted it –  I disagree.

If you posted it, you put it out there.

Not just on social media.

Not just on the internet.

But you put it out THERE…into the Universe.

You see, we are all made up of energy and energy moves from one person to the next. Everything we do is filled with energy including your thoughts and actions. Energy can have different frequencies and those frequencies can change. Lower frequencies are negative, heavier energies, while higher frequencies are positive or lighter energies. Energy is always in constant motion and it continually can move from dark energy to light energy or from a lower or to a higher vibration.

no neg energyWhen you allow your focus or your attention to be on something, in this case images, comments, memes and articles…You are feeding the energy. So for example, if you if you are spending time posting something mean or negative, forwarding something mean or negative, and even if you are spending time reading something mean or negative that you have allowed in your news feed, you are feeding the negative energy. And better yet, you are keeping that negative energy alive by doing your part to feed it.

By spending time with “negativity” (even on your electronic devices) you are allowing negativity into your energy field. And in return, when you send out energy to the world around you, you are sending out negativity.  In the physical world, we experience the echo of the vibration that we emit. We attract “like” or similar vibrations to the vibration that we are putting out.

What if you take a moment and review the energy on your social media account(s).  Does your news feed have a negative tone to it? After you evaluate your news feed(s), I want to you take a look at the energy in your life right now. How are things in your household, personal or professional life? What about your finances or your love life? Are there any situations that continually pop up or don’t go away?  Are you on edge or angry a lot? Are you surrounded by negative relationships? What about anxiety or depression? Though there can be many reasons why you are suffering from one, the other, or both, negative energy has been known to bring on anxiety and depression in some. Do you feel like you are constantly trying to swim against the current of life? Have you injured yourself, had accidents or been clumsy lately? All of these things can be a reflection of negative energy in your life.

be postive vibeOn the flip side, if you want to attract more positive things into your life, start sending out sending out positive energy in lieu of negative. Did you know that *Love* is the highest frequency that we can emit? So in a world that needs more love, why do we spend time sending out, posting and commenting with negative energy? Why not vibrate at the highest frequency possible? I’m here to remind you to level up.  Everything a person puts out, even on social media (images, comments, memes, etc.) IS energy, just as one’s actions and words are energy as well.

Be responsible for the energy you put out.

#VibrateHigher

July 2016: I Stopped Biting my Nails and Told the Universe that I Want to Work on Missing Persons Cases.

crime sceeneI know, neither go with each other, the nails or missing persons cases, but really, this is my highlight reel for this month. And honestly, most things that happen in my life anymore aren’t always making sense or necessarily go together.

I still struggle with what I should be doing to best serve me, my gifts, my family, etc. Earlier today, the 21st of July, I asked the Universe to put me on my right path. The path that utilizes my gifts for the purpose of good. Financial gain would also be great, but using my gifts consistently and for the purpose of good is good enough for me at this time in my life as I feel that I am just wandering around in circles. I flat out put it out there. Smack dab into the Universe. Right as I was getting ready in front of the mirror this morning, I asked that I somehow help with Missing Persons Cases. Something that has interested me for years, even before realizing about the gifts that I possess.

As far as my nails go, I’ve been a nail-biter for most of life and even when I do grow out my nails, they are weak and don’t grow very long. I decided that I am going to get manicures on a regular basis and see what I can do in the nail department. Even if my nails don’t grow, sitting in the nail tech’s chair makes me at least sit still. Something that I constantly struggle with – sitting and just being.

Fast forward to this afternoon. I was scrolling though Facebook and stumbled on a Missing Persons Page. There are a few out there, but this one I felt drawn to. I started chatting with the administrator of the page and told her how this is of interest to me but that I am still ironing out how to use my gifts. She offered to let me help her with a case that she is currently working on. The “case” involves a girl who went missing while vacationing in Portugal. I guess we’ll see where this goes. Wish me luck.


 

Update July 2018: I will say that moving forward, I would prefer to work with law enforcement on missing persons cases, (or any cases for that matter). I prefer this as in the past I have provided information to friends and loved ones who are looking for answers in cases and the information never seems to get to the right people to actually help solve things and to bring closure. It is almost like providing a false hope. Up to this point in assisting with cases, I have always used at least one, and sometimes two other mediums, who I trust locally to confirm the information that I have gotten in relation to cases before passing that info along. I have also learned, and will stand by the fact, that Mediums are to just provide the information that they get and it is not our job to “fill in” the missing pieces in order to help solve a crime. Chalk it up to “Lessons Learned.”