Resolutions. Lifestyle Changes. Detoxes – All of the Buzz Words that we hear every year about this time.
When it comes to our bodies and food, the word “detox” means to rid the body of toxic or unhealthy substances. But why limit your detox to just the substances in your body? Besides detoxing physically, should you be detoxing emotionally and spiritually as well? Where else are “toxic” or “unhealthy” things (or even energies) getting into your life?? The answer could be right under your nose…
Is there anything or anyone that is showing up in your social media news feed that needs to be detoxed? Negative energy can come to you in the form of social media though other people’s posts, rants and comments. Maybe it is time to scrub your news feed? And you, as a human in the physical world, also made up of energy, you are absorbing that negativity or toxicity that your eyes are skimming on a daily basis. Did you know that negative energy can also stay stagnant in your energy field? If the posts, comments or people who you follow on social media feel heavy or negative to you, drain you, or if they no longer are serving your highest good, be rid of them.
What are you watching on TV, at the Movie Theater or on Netflix? What are you listening to in the car during your commute? Is the energy, tone or content negative or positive? What is the energy of the people speaking or of the topics being discussed? What is the content of the show, mini series or documentary that you have been binge watching lately? Are you letting negative energy into your living room or your vehicle? Is what you are watching or listening to serving your highest good? You have the power to make changes.
This is also a great time to evaluate who you interact with, associate with and represent on a regular basis. Who are you hanging out with these days? Who is in your inner circle? Do these people raise you up or do they drain you? Are they your best support system or are they full of drama? Do they have your best interest at heart? What organizations do you belong to or are you associating yourself with? Again, are they serving your highest good? If not, let them go. It is okay to walk away.
Do you have contacts in your phone or in your email address book who you no longer stay in contact with and most likely have not need to contact again? Let them go. Delete. It doesn’t have to mean that these contacts wronged you, but by hanging on to old, stagnant relationships, we can’t make room for new ones.
Your diet is not only what you eat, but it is also what you read, watch and listen to. It is also the people you hang out with. And in retrospect, we need to detox more than food from our bodies.
Don’t be afraid of letting people and relationships go. If people are meant to be in your life, they will find their way back. In the meantime, Detox. Let Go! Make Room for new!
As more and more of us are “waking up” to consciousness, and as social media connects us to more and more people, it seems, at least to me, that Spiritual Teachers, Groups and people are a dime a dozen, most of which, in my opinion (and from the energy I feel/sense from them) are not for me. We all want to “find our tribe” and find a group of like-minded people where we feel that we fit in. Some of us are looking for mentors to help us along the way. As you explore different people and groups and teachers you want to include with you on your journey, my advice to you is to take a step back and see how these people “feel” to you.
Many people and groups (both in person and on social media) that I have experienced can have low energy, and at times, even toxic energy (drama) that they air on social media. You know, the ones who claim to be spiritual gangsters or healers, yet they post or discuss “sensitive” (violent or graphic) content and language that spiritually advanced people wouldn’t do or use?
In the group(s) that you belong to, do you find that the majority of members are constant complainers or whiners? (When you complain, you remain – most of us looking for spiritual growth want to move forward.)
What kinds of energy do those in your “group” carry? A high-vibrational energy? Or a low-vibrational energy? Are they draining to you? I have found that I am (and my gifts are) too sensitive for most groups and I’ve had to exit stage left more than a handful of times. Learn to “delete” the things and people that drain you! Energies are contagious. The right people who match your vibrational level and find you.
How many people are you connected with whose goal is to “sell” you something – an oil, a crystal, a piece of jewelry, a class, distance healing, a monthly membership, whatever it is, fill in the blank. Does it feel like they are trying to get more followers for their own benefit? Or are they genuinely interested in helping people with their goods and/or services? Maybe they started a meet-up or online group with the intention to solicit to people like you? Don’t get me wrong, we all have to make a living and we all do it in different ways, but if a person, group or teacher feels inauthentic, they probably are and it probably is.
When it comes to buying goods or services, also take a step back and ask yourself if the prices seem reasonable. Where are the items sourced? If you shop around a bit, you will be able to come up with the average cost of different types of crystals, oils, and energy services for where you live. If something seems to be priced too good to be true, well, as the saying goes, it might just be. Sometimes the item may cost a little more, but the person or the knowledge that comes with it, can make all the difference.
As far as teachers and mentors go, I feel we all have something to learn from everyone – both good and bad. Some people claim to be “teachers” but I have found that they should be doing their own inner work before trying to teach or help others. You may also cross paths with a teacher who you want to be NOTHING like. (There is still a lesson in that.)
The best teachers and mentors I have had, always gave me the “tools” (not necessarily a program) that I needed along my journey, at the right time. I have been able to incorporate what I have learned from them, into my life, to help me to grow or heal or to expand my gifts. The best teachers have also opened my eyes to different things, but didn’t always give me the answer. They would lead or nudge me to figure out the answer – sometimes on my own and sometimes with their assistance. The empowering ones are the best ones.
I have also found that some of the best mentors, though many ARE on social media, are a bit more under the radar and they post with what I call “grace.” (Not necessarily selfies that look like they belong on a dating site or images filled with “ego.”) They aren’t all “Look at me!”
The “teachers” who try to get a bunch of followers under them or the umbrella of their business, I have not found are the teachers for me. These are usually the ones asking for a financial arm and leg from their students (or groupies), or a bunch of volunteered hours in order to be certified in something. (As a reminder, we all have intuition, you don’t need a certification that says you have it!) The ones looking for a monthly, re-occurring membership I haven’t found to be necessary either on my spiritual path, either.
We are all energy. And energy is always in contact motion. With that said, we shouldn’t and aren’t meant to stay in one place forever, whether that means in the same group, around the same people or with the same mentors forever. The universes places stepping stones in front of us and as we advance, new people, teachers and resources are put in our path – if we choose to follow.
As an Empath, it can be challenging to manage your energy, especially when you are in settings where there is a negative or toxic person or group of people. I have found that the simply moving away from the source of negativity does wonders for me.
What is a negative or toxic person you ask? Well, they tend to be people who have issues with maintaining relationships. They judge others, dwell on the past, have anger issues, they can never be wrong and tend to be brown-nosers.
These types of people like to be the center of attention even if it is negative attention. They will do anything to get you to pay attention to them and see their point of view even if they tell you lies or fib to you. They also tend to leverage themselves into a position where people have but no choice but to pay attention to them.
Negative or toxic people tend to either stir up drama or feed off of others, and at times will even help it to manifest. They manipulate, they like to control, and they like to withhold information that can be a benefit to others. They also like to blame others for their circumstances.
Do you know anyone who fits this bill?? A relative? A co-worker? A hair-dresser? A class-mate? A stage mother? A sports parent? A drinking buddy?
It is nearly impossible to avoid negative or toxic people all together, especially at social gatherings, in the workplace, at school or church functions, or at your child’s extracurricular activities. As an empath, physical closeness can increase the absorption of a negative person’s feelings or energy. With that said, I have found it extremely effective to distance myself physically from such people. And by distancing I mean at least twenty feet or more. In cramped quarters, that isn’t always possible but in the least, it is helpful to avoid as much contact as possible with negative or toxic people. Give yourself permission to change where you are sitting, stand on a different side of the room, or take frequent breaks from the crowd if need be. Sure, it can come off looking anti-social or snobby, but I have let go of being worried about what other people think as my own energy, or how I feel physically, outweighs other people’s opinions. And really, if it is a negative person that one is trying to avoid, that person isn’t giving you a second (positive) thought anyway. Right?